Posted: Aug 02 2017
I remember growing up, thinking how by twenty-something I’d be such an adult.
Twenty-somethings have “grown-up" jobs, they get married, buy houses. Little did I know that my life, much like many of my friends and acquaintances, would be a lot more complicated than childhood perceptions. I’m finding my twenties to be the most challenging and full of reflection and growth, especially as I head toward my quarter century birthday. Enter my twenty-something blues.
Certain principles remain steadfast throughout generational shifts, but others - such as the pattern of post-secondary education leading to a direct career - are outdated, and in many cases unrealistic now. The first job I took out of university made me miserable! To be honest, I don’t even know why I accepted the offer in the first place. I knew it wasn’t where I wanted to go with my future, but I felt pressure to have that “grown-up” job - to start working my way up a corporate ladder like my family recommended.
Speaking with friends, I realized I wasn’t the only one feeling confused about where my life was headed. It’s hard for us to take the advice of parents or others of a different generation, as times have greatly changed since their initial steps into adulthood. While they certainly have some valid insights, I’m finding it important to reach beyond my small circle of family and friends in order to look for examples of success that would appeal to me personally. There are so many wonderful examples of inspiring individuals who were able to accomplish aspirations, both big and small.
For now, I remind myself as well as anyone who I come across that’s feeling down on themselves that there are always ways to improve. I like to watch interviews with people that describe their very beginnings because many of the most distinguished individuals begun much like any other person. It’s hard to imagine, especially with the prevalence of showing extravagant lifestyles via social media, but material goods and renowned reputations are the fruits of years and years of hard labour.
There are so many facets of life that we can set goals - becoming stronger in the things we are naturally gifted in and adding additional skills that coincide with our ambitions and passions. If anything has become clearer to me, it’s that with hard work and consistency, we can all grow into our own definitions of success.
Katarina Kalaminec // Lifestyle Writer